My grandma isn't doing well at all. Sleeping all the time, mostly non-responsive when anyone talks to her, some other physical stuff I won't get into. The doctor said her body is slowly shutting down.... :( I am (selfishly) hoping that she won't pass away while I'm in Arizona, but what will be will be. I also hope, though, that things won't drag out for her.
On another note, there are some issues that my mom and I have had between us for some time now. On the surface, things seem "okay", but they really aren't. There is alot of junk that gets ignored, and she has this frustrating tendency to talk about me to others rather than talking TO me and dealing with things. I recently learned about stuff she'd said about me to relatives that I had NO idea about, and which were really out there -- odd assumptions she'd made that had no basis in fact, that she had made without ever talking to me. Weird, I tell you.....
Anyway, we seem to be having a real problem with communicating on this, so I sat down and wrote her a letter which I mailed today. I am nervous (actually very apprehensive) about her reaction to it. I hate that I feel that way, I really do. Blah.....
Praying that things go smoothly.... and that I won't get defensive, as I often do because of the way my mom sometimes approaches things.
Thirdly, a coworker (she is a sub who just comes in once in awhile when one of us is on vacation, etc.) had a hysterectomy about 2 1/2 weeks ago. I saw her today, and she looked really awful -- it actually scared me a bit that she looked so bad. Apparently she had been doing okay, but then ended up back in the hospital with a blood clot in her lung. Serious stuff. When I saw her today, it looked like it was taking a great effort just to talk, she looked so exhausted. I hope she is back on the road to a speedy and complete recovery.
The Surface of the Sun
8 years ago
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I'm sorry about the stuff with your mom. I can't imagine what that would be like but I DO know quite a few who'd rather talk about someone than TO them. It is VERY frustrating, to say the least. I wonder when folks will realize what better relationships we could have if we'd just be honest with one another? Then again, there are those who'd rather live in the clouds and not know at all....
Of course, the talking TO someone does require a certain degree of tact which many of us lack and need to cultivate.....(me included!)
Each time I hear someone speaking of someome else, I try to take that to heart and serve as a reminder to ME the next time I feel like doing the same.
I know how it is to pour out your heart and be apprehensive. It's hard...SO hard. I pray all goes well (even though it might be rocky at first).
I hope you're blessed enough to have pleasant memories of time spent with your mom to hold on to in times like these. Some people (moms included!!) just don't realize that in wanting the best for their kids, they end up hurting them the most. I'm glad you're a kid who's not afraid to talk to her. :-)
Oh but I am afraid... trust me... lol.
Yeah, some of this goes back to the weirdness I referred to in the email... stuff she was thinking and saying to others, without any facts and without even speaking to me. I'd had no idea...
She hasn't talked to me yet, but the timing turned out to be bad, since my grandma passed away. We'll see what happens.
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